These three simple words can start a conversation that might just save a life. When someone is struggling with a mental health crisis, grand gestures aren’t always needed. Often it’s the little things, the smaller conversations, that can make the biggest impact. You never know how grateful someone could be because of one simple conversion.
In recent weeks, there has been increased media attention on suicide prevention, one of the least publicized public health issues. A recent report revealed that Colorado ranks 7th in the nation in its rate of suicide deaths. In 2014, there were 1,057 suicide deaths in Colorado, the highest number in our state’s history.
Talking about the issue of suicide makes many of us feel uncomfortable, helpless and perhaps even frustrated. For those who know someone who has died by suicide, it impacts friends, family and the entire community. It is devastating; it is also preventable. The more the community learns about risk factors and warning signs, the more lives can be saved.
It often feels overwhelming or scary to talk to someone about suicide and there are many myths that go along with those conversations. Here are three of them and the facts to go along with them:
Myth: If a person is determined to kill him/herself, nothing is going to stop them.
Fact: Suicide is preventable. The majority of people contemplating suicide don’t really want to die. They are seeking an end to intense mental and/or physical pain. Talking about that pain with someone may help.
Myth: People who commit suicide were unwilling to seek help.
Fact: People often give warning signs when they’re thinking of suicide. They want help. Studies of suicide victims have shown that more than half had sought medical help in the six months prior to their deaths.
Myth: Talking about suicide may give someone the idea.
Fact: The opposite is true—bringing up the subject of suicide and discussing it openly is one of the most helpful things a person can do. By giving someone who is thinking of suicide an opportunity to open up and share their troubles, their pain may be alleviated and they may be able to find solutions.
So, the next time you see someone who might be struggling, reach out and let them know you care. Use those three simple words: “Are you ok?” You just may be a lifesaver.
As the leader of the Jefferson County Suicide Prevention Coalition for that past 25 years, Jefferson Center offers suicide prevention resources and training throughout the year. The next training is set for September 25. For more information and to register, click here. (http://www.jcmh.org/suicide-prevention/suicide-prevention-trainings/)